A lot of people are writing obituary letters these days, but not everyone is a writer.
There are many other people out there who are, too.
In this week’s Bullet Journal, we take a look at the best of the best, and then we ask the best obituators to offer advice for those of us who want to write obituary letters for the right person.
Michael Landon “When the weather is nice and I’m in my bedroom, I sit on the floor with my hands over my ears and listen to the radio for a while.”
– Michael Landon, author of “In Search of the Missing” (HarperCollins, 2015) 2.
Bryce G. “I’m not really an obit, and I’ve been trying for years.
But I still have to write a letter to my father.
It’s one of those things that if you can do it, you should.”
– Bryce G. 3.
Jeffrey M. “I don’t know how to write an obituaiton.
It was hard enough when I started.
But now I’ve got a friend who knows what I’m talking about and she just wants to know what I would want to say.”
– Jeffrey M. 4. Robert C. “If I can get someone to write it for me, I’ll do it.”
– Robert C. 5.
Mike “Writing a letter is hard, but it’s a great opportunity for me to be a better person.”
– Mike 6.
Tom “The first time I wrote a letter, I was a shy kid in the basement, and my father and I got along really well.
I’m writing a letter for my mom.
I don’t want her to be depressed.” – Tom 7.
Ricky “It’s not what I want to do, but writing an obits is what I do, and it feels like the right thing to do.”
– Ricky 8.
Jared “There’s nothing wrong with the letter, it’s just the letters that are written with the proper intent.”
– Jared 9.
Lorena “For me, obits are just writing.
I try to write with as much emotion as possible.
But it doesn’t mean I want it to be written in the way that’s best for my family.
It could be an obiterdiary or an obliquity that will be written to someone else.”
– Lorena 10.
Matt “To write an actual obit is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.
I write them on a whiteboard, but I can’t be a real person, so I use what I know about writing, and what I’ve learned as a writer, to make them.”
– Matt 11.
Dan “Sometimes it’s better to leave out what is most important than what is important to the story.”
– Dan 12.
Natalie “My obit hasn’t gotten as much love as it deserves.
It took a lot of effort to write, and there are some people who have read it who don’t appreciate it.”
Nate “A letter is a written record of what you really want to express.
The way I see it, a letter should be as important as the story itself.
If I were writing a song, it would be better if I wasn’t writing a poem.
A poem can tell a story.
A song can tell emotions.
A letter should express your true feelings.
A letter should not.
I write letters to people and I try not to write letters for anyone.
It just seems like a waste of time to me.
However, if I have to, I write letters.”
Kristy “Being a writer is a hobby, not a job.
It does take a lot to get to that place, but once you get there, the writing part comes easy.
I have no idea how much time and effort it would take to write something that would be worth writing, but when I finally get to it, I just write it.
I’ll take the time and the effort, but that’s all I care about.”
– Kristy 14.
Kelsey “Once I started writing, I thought it would always be a hobby.
Now, it feels much more like a job.”
– Kelsey 15.
Evelyn “Just writing an email or posting an ad on Facebook makes it much more fun to do.
People appreciate that.”
– Evelyn 16.
Tara “We don’t write for money, we write because we want to be remembered and remembered well.
We write to remember the lives we were able to change